HOW TO EMBRACE THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM
I chose Ganesha as my first tattoo because I wanted to remind myself to bow to my obstacles as my sources of wisdom and empowerment.
"The elephant is not your enemy.
It's your invitation to step into your power."
Hi friends,
I have certainly needed some downtime after the energy of last week. This week is ripe for a pause, deep listening and bold action out of clarity. Check out my astrology video for how to navigate these energies especially today and Tuesday. Remember it doesn’t have to be perfect, but is has to be real. Life is often more messy than neat so allow yourself to surrender the ideal self and go with the real one instead. You are right where you need to be and poised to make the next step once you affirm what you want.
I have 3 important questions to ask yourself to discover what the elephant in the room is trying to open you towards. I also have a video on the science of my retreat work - yes there is more to it than a vacation!
I hope you will join my workshop Tuesday or jump on my Facebook live on Thursday. Lots of ways to enhance your life genius style. Please let me know what is on your heart and mind so I can share the wisdom that is supporting us towards the most joy imaginable.
Elephant in the Room
Shall we discuss the elephant in the room? If you are like me, I will often address everything else in my life while pretending that this “elephant” isn’t really causing that much trouble. Yet, despite doing all the other “right” things, the elephant prevails and I find myself feeling obstructed from what I desire, confused, lacking clarity or feeling disempowered. Why is that? The experience from my own life and from witnessing hundreds of clients over the years is that your elephant is tying up more of your vital energy than you probably give it credit for. I liken this to “peek a boo” with a toddler, they cover their eyes and to them they are invisible and so is everything around them but we all know that it is only their perception that hides reality.
Life has proven to me time and time again, that when we name and address the elephant in the room, the path forward reveals itself and we see that our block is not only self-imposed but totally within our power to be removed. Hiding from it continues to feed our disempowerment and the unconscious fears holding us back. And then all other attempts in our life are eclipsed by this retractive energy that generates reflections back to us that only confirm the limitations.
There is a much better way friends. I have 3 questions that will help you identify your “elephant” so you can flip your perspective and story around it! It’s time that you see it for what it is… the pathway inviting you to choose better for yourself from the powerful place of your choice as creator.
Before I reveal these, I have 2 Prerequisites for these questions: These are essential for the questions to have maximum benefit.
1. No judgment allowed. This is another way we buy into those doubting voices that want us to keep ignoring the elephant. It doesn’t matter your story around why you hide from the elephant, how you should have known or how long you have been hiding. You are where you are and no experience is ever wasted. Choose to be in the now with your choice and leave the history behind.
2. Allow in a new perspective about the elephant. This opens up way more grace and lightness around it. Part of how we do this is to step out of the voices that come from the Victim-Victimizer-Savior triangle. Often when we are stuck in patterns that result in disempowerment and stem from fear we are playing roles of any of these three and often all three with how we are telling the story. Continuing to play the victim continues to feed our lack of power and we will never access the way forward. Continuing the play the victimizer holds us in “righteousness” and blinds us to where we are choosing to stay stuck. Playing savior continues to provide the excuse to stay stuck. They all are mind games based on outdated programming. Realize you are always chooser and you always have a choice towards what you desire and the elephant is the invitation to the new choice. It is actually showing you the way!
If you are on board with the pre-reqs, these questions really break it down into the base components.
1. How do you want to feel when you get to the place, possess the thing or are with the person?
Underneath anything we desire in life is the belief that it will allow us to feel better. So you must know what this is in order to orient towards it. Otherwise, you are in a car with the GPS set to “wherever you want to take me car” energetically. So what is your visionary state? Confidence, support, love, content… Name it out.
1. What are the things that I can do right now that yield these emotions in the present?
This is the “Act as if” activities, steps and decisions that we CAN start to make right now move us towards those states. So if you want to be a confident-how would that confident person act now knowing that they had that money in the bank or the job dialed in. So instead of waiting for the money to be there or the job to be there we embody the “persona” of that future person and start acting as if. Options open when we do this because we are signaling to the universe, support me in this new state. When we hang out in the triangle above we are asking to stay stuck and life will keep giving us options to perpetuate that state too.
2. Where is the gap? Where are you in choice to the opposite of this?
You must start telling the truth before anything can truly change. If we don’t identify where, when and how we invest our time, energy or attention to those things that cause us to feel the opposite then we give off contradictory energy in our life and we will generate confusion. I often notice myself claiming confusion when truly I just don’t want to be honest and do anything about what I know is truly causing my wobble from what I know I want. Maybe I have good reasons, but if I do desire change in my life then I must be willing to change how I respond to life.
3. The elephant is the way
Ganesha, as pictured above is known to be the “remover of obstacles” but he teaches that the obstacle is the way. That which is blocking us is actually what is our ticket to freedom-to enlightenment..to shining light on that which is ready to then guide our way forward. But we must be willing to make a new decision. Maybe it is a small step and maybe you have to take a bigger leap. Only you know and only you have the power to decide how you truly want to live this great life that is around you and for you.
Most recently, I have chosen to deal with my own elephant. It seemed large, indomitable and scary as hell. But the more I have sat with it and observed myself and asked these questions the way through is clear. I realized that avoiding it has been costing me way more. The elephant now seems to be lending his back for me to ride into my next frontier of exponential living.
May we all choose wisely and with an intelligent way greater than our fears and avoidances.
I have a leap experience for anyone, (or couple), ready to look at their life with a whole new perspective in Lanikai at the end of the month. It is a leap like no other!
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