Small steps are harder than Leaps
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"There are no guarantees. From the moment you make a choice, you need to trust that everything that happens from that point on has meaning."
~ Deepak Chopra
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Get ready for another shift this week as we will feel opposing energies of slow down and refine balanced with expand take a leap. Check out my astrology video for how to navigate these energies/ This is a super potent week with the potential for big shifts where you are calling them in!
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Small Steps are HARDER than Leaps… at times
Small steps are harder than leaps when it comes to expansion-the moving towards that which we desire-the “more ness” of anything in our life from wanting a better relationship, a more fulfilling job, more financial flow, a new house.
How can that be?
I will admit, I was a proponent of the alternative approach for most of my life. That’s not to say that small steps are not “wins” but stay with me to vet out this non-conventional view. It just may radically change how you view a worthy risk.
When we discover something we desire-the greater part of us expands instantly towards it. You can call this your soul, your spirit, your energy-it is the wise part of you that knows what you truly desire is yours because you are a creator. We can experience this expansion in the form of motivation, inspiration, excitement and a deep resonance in the most pure sense. I describe it as “I feel it in my bones” kind of desire different than the needing to fill a void ones.
And then…
The doubt, the “not enoughness” the fear steps in. This is the small self-the primal protecting aspect of your identity that needs you to stay safe. To stay safe means stay small and do not change. There is unknown in change and that is not safe. The thoughts in your head may say different things but if we were to translate the energy of them it would be very similar to what I am describing. This can be experienced as anxiety, hopelessness, frustration,disappointment, stuckness, reasoning out why it isn’t possible-all the reasons our mind will use to say “see you can’t have that-look how it makes you feel!”.
I am guessing you have experienced this many times before. I certainly have. I notice this predominantly when I desire to make larger changes in my life-like buy a home, leave a job, depart a relationship-you know the “big ticket” items of life. The ones in which we think we need a solid guarantee in order to move towards them.
There is a problem with this search for the “100% guarantee seal” though…the only guarantee is in your alignment and your knowingness-your full body “yes” (note that this is way different than than a mind’s yes or no based on logic). This is an internal wisdom source that integrates all of you. No person, system, or thing can give you a guarantee. The best way to guarantee anything is to get fully behind it and give it your full commitment and energy and fully trust that whatever happens after this is what is necessary to yield to you what you want. In a sense we have to surrender at the point of giving ourselves over to it fully without knowing the outcome.
A great analogy is the uneven bars in gymnastics. The only guarantee the gymnast has is his or her full attention and decision to go for it. There is no certainty, there is probability but even this isn’t always predictive of the outcome. The most skilled gymnasts fall and sometimes the underdogs win gold.
So, back to my claim of leaps vs small steps…when we are grid locked with small self vs expanding self we must choose who we are going to give the mic to and thus our energy. If we give the mic to the small self we must know that it will never give us evidence to leap. It wants us to stay safe. It would tell the gymnast-stay on this bar..we don’t know if we can make it. Besides this bar is good enough right? I mean look what can happen if we let go…we could fall, get hurt, mess up…on and on. Rarely is moving towards our expansion “logical”. Expansion is in its essence unchartered territory.
Oftentimes we pass the mic back and forth. We hear the small self and then we say, ok I will just take a little step. That is great-we moved away from fear but in the example of the uneven bars there is no small step. There is a leap or nothing. Some desires and thus goals are like this too. What often results in subsequent mic passes is that we never fully get behind our decision and therefore the energy never lines up because we are one hand on one bar and one hand on the other and this causes suffering for longer and it gives the small self more ammunitionto doubt. If a gymnast did this he or she would never make the transition. The waffling would inevitably cause a fall.
I see this so often with clients that know their current work is not aligned but the need to know for sure that they can “find something better” is the permission slip to leave. Now this is a very reasonable decision but energetically it will often prevent the person from finding the “right fit” job because they are straddling their expansion and their fear. And when waffling long enough fear can be a powerful foe to overcome because over time it continues to feed the unworthiness and lower self’s mantras which energetically block us.
So why is leaping easier?
When we take a big leap-quit that job before having the next one, depart the relationship before finding someone better, start the business with all the risks-it requires all of us to get behind our yes. Just like the uneven bars we have to let go and then execute what we know and adapt in the moment. Waffling ends. We are all in. Something extraordinary happens when we are all in and often this is the very step required to align our energy. This is when “miracles” happen. Synchronicities line up. Creative ideas emerge. We feel the relief of the old being swept from our field and the expansion can now bring us forward.
Recently a client explained this as “Now it is so clear. I feel so much more in sync with myself. Life feels like it is finally in flow.” All of this because she is now all in with where she was always desiring to go.
Now leaping doesn’t always mean doing irresponsible and high risk actions. It truly is defined and experienced individually. Leaping for you might mean taking a vacation solo or getting a tarot reading. But it requires the same no matter the decision:
Trusting that your desires are a spiritual aspect of the deeper you and they are not “wrong/bad/unspiritual/selfish/materialistic”. True desires don’t aim to fill a void (like a late night snack) but lead the whole you to a greater experience of yourself.
Feeling into more than your mind for your “yes” or “no”. Gut and body check it too.
Trusting yourself and your ability to navigate your “yes” moment to moment without the superficial mind guarantees. See my recent video on “there is no such thing as safety”
As a client recently stated with such wisdom “Either this will change nothing or it will change everything”. Full disclosure it may go just as you wanted (you reach the 2nd set of bars) or you fall (something else happens) and you are willing to know one way or another and move on.
The astrological energy of these times invite us into this all in ness with what is stirring our heart. Come on you have been hearing the whispers! We even have the Olympics modeling the way. As a veteran leaper., I have never once wished I had not gone for it. I can’t say it always worked out like I thought but I can say it worked out better because each leap a new version of me emerged with greater clarity, authenticity and courage to keep upleveling my game.
So, I leave you with a question-
Where is life asking you to put in all your chips?
Are you willing to get behind your desires and go all in?
I have a leap experience for anyone (or couple) ready to look at their life with a whole new perspective in Lanikai at the end of the month. It is a leap like no other!